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Thursday, August 5, 2010

I get by with a little help from my friends (and family)...

This has been my first week back at work full-time and I am bone tired. I could barely drag myself out of bed this morning and Cameron didn't seem to want to get up either. So, I guess I have a case of the Thursdays -- the weekend is just one more day away, but still seemed so far when I woke up. It has been a busy week so far and I am trying to get into a routine that allows me to stay organized, hang out with my son and spend some time with my husband...forget exercising for the moment. I have to give a shout out to my husband for all of the support he has given me this week -- letting me go to bed early, keeping up with cleaning, cooking and other household crapola. He has pulled more than his fair share of the weight. Thanks honey!

With all that goes on in the first few months of parenthood, I certainly have relied on the support of my husband and family. After having a very difficult delivery and recovery, I don't know what I would have done without the help of my parents and in-laws. For the first few weeks of Cam's life there was a constant stream of helpers - bringing over dinner, walking the dog, picking up the house and taking care of the baby. It was amazing and we are truly blessed to have such an awesome family.

That being said, my heart went out to Farrah this week on Teen Mom. The viewers never knew what happened to Farrah's baby daddy and this week we learned that he passed away and that before he died, her parents were doing their best to keep her away from him. He may not have been the best guy for Farrah (in her parent's eyes), but Farrah is clearly still grieving him and the loss of a father for her daughter. Understandably, the relationship between Farrah and her mother is especially strained right now after her mother assaulted her causing physical injury, but I noticed that there is a mutual lack of respect between mother and daughter. On the episode, it was Sophia's (Farrah's daughter) first birthday and Farrah was going to meet up with her father for dinner to celebrate and she agreed that her mother could also come. (P.S. - I find it weird how the family seems to call each other by first names rather than "mom" or "dad.") So, Deborah (Farrah's mom) came to dinner and basically hijacked Sophia the entire time, even when Farrah was trying to read Sophia the birthday card she had chosen for her. TV shows Farrah asking a few times for them to leave Sophia alone for a minute so she can read the card to her, but they just seem to ignore her. It was sad because it was clear that Farrah wanted to have a nice day with her daughter, even making a t-shirt that said "Sophia's Mom" on it and wearing it for the day. All in all Deborah seems a little looney what with the physical assault, crazy grandmother behavior and snubbing of Farrah.

So, Farrah no longer seems to have family support -- or she doesn't want it because she finds it toxic, but nonetheless, she is alone with her child. Now, at age 30 I could probably handle it -- it wouldn't be fun or a piece of cake, but I have been living in the adult world for some time and have a career, some assets, etc. -- but at age 18 there is NO WAY that I could have been on my own with a baby without family to depend on. NO WAY. I suppose you do what you have to do and I hope that Farrah can keep it going for her daughter's sake.

The polar opposite of Farrah's situation is that of the Duggar family. I have two 19 Kids and Counting episodes waiting for me on my DVR. Oh how I miss maternity leave!

1 comment:

  1. Thanks Dave!

    Farrah's story just got so incredibly sadder for me. I could not imagine my baby not knowing their father. Worse, that their father is dead. Farrah's mom is a nut job. She should go to jail. My hormonal self wanted to yell at her when they showed those dinner scenes. I totally understand where Farrah is coming from and I feel sorry for her.

    Family is awesome!

    (welcome back)