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Monday, July 26, 2010

Peeping Mommy?

When I found out that I was pregnant last fall, I found myself seeking out stories, gossip and pics of celebrity and reality star moms or moms-to-be. I still do it. I watch, read and consume everything having to do with famous (and infamous) mommies. It is a way to relate and compare my own existence and now that my son is here, it has only intensified.

I wonder if Bethenny Frankel, who gave birth about a week after me, is struggling with getting her baby to sleep through the night -- or does her baby nurse worry about that? I watch Kourtney Kardashian pump and dump after a night of heavy drinking and the whole time I'm thinking, who stayed with the baby while she was out partying? Surely not her irresponsible, sociopath baby daddy. I am not envious of the help that these women surely have, but because I don't have the full-time (or even part-time) nanny or baby nurse, I wonder what kind of parenting burden is actually relieved by the hired help.

When my son doesn't burp adequately after a feeding, I wonder if he will asphyxiate in his sleep. Even when my own mother is watching him, I worry that she won't know the exact way to hold him so he will calm down and go to sleep. I read the books, search the internet and compare my son to other babies to make sure that he is healthy and developing right on track. Do these celebrity women also do this?

I would like to think that all of the help changing diapers, feeding and rocking does not erase the worry, anxiety and guilt that comes with having a child for the first time. Because struggle yields to learning and sometimes joy, I hope that the celeb moms that I watch on television also have a chance to calm their screaming child and relish that sweet smile that only comes when a baby hears his mother's voice.

I have been following Bethenny Frankel's pregnancy (and engagement) on her show Bethenny Getting Married? and I must say, I love her. I love her sense of humor and the fact that she and her husband literally had no clue as to what having a baby entailed (or at least that is what the magic of TV wanted us to believe). She looked so cute in her personalized hospital gown on her episode last week. I can't wait to see this Thursday's episode and get a glimpse of new baby Bryn. I know that my own mother remembers what celebs were pregnant and having children at the same time she was and I will always feel some strange motherhood kinship with Bethenny just knowing that she is also going through a lot of the same experiences that I am. Pathetic? Maybe a little. It is not like I have some kind of delusion that I will meet her or something, but having a child can rock your world and it is nice to know that there are other people going through it.

Now to women who have no nannies or baby nurses -- teen mommies. My co-workers and I are fans of Teen Mom on MTV. I was pregnant during the first season and I would hop on the couch with my 2nd dinner and watch every trainwreck of an episode. The next day during lunch my co-workers and I would pick it apart -- everything from what Amber was doing with her hair and make-up to what kind of a parent we thought Farrah was. Picture three women all around 30 years old hashing out the lives of the teen moms over our Lean Cuisines and salads. And we are not alone! My age group (let's put it at 28-35 yrs old) seems to love the spectacle of teenagers having babies on TV -- in fact, I think we love to be voyeurs as women have and try to raise children, no matter what age they are. It is in our biology. In our child bearing years we are studying others to figure out our own desires, fears, expectations and challenges when it comes to having babies and caring for them.

I truly could analyze how trendy pregnancy has become for hours, but I have E! News to watch so that I can blog about what new batch of pregnant celebs are doing. I just found out about Christina Applegate's baby bump. What? I didn't even know she was dating someone.

Off to catch up on the goss -- oh and feed my baby! More later -- after all, The Real Housewives of New Jersey is on tonight and I can't wait to see what crazy sh*t Danielle is going to say!

1 comment:

  1. Kristen Horan DavisJuly 29, 2010 at 4:28 PM

    Annie, you are hilarious and I am more than a little jealous that you have found an outlet that I didn't have as I nursed into the wee hours of the night. I also became more than a little obsessed with TV after having kids. Obviously we go out less now, so what's a parent to do on a Saturday night but watch all the saved show on her DVR while her kids sleep. Keep the entertainment coming. And keep it up with the breastfeeding - you will be so happy you did!!!!!!!!!!!! Kristen Davis

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